Intervention letter generator
A compassionate, CRAFT-based letter for a family member who's struggling. Fill in the fields, copy it out, read it aloud.
This is what UK addiction specialists actually write with families. Not a script — a starting point you can make your own.
Dear [their name], I'm writing this because I love you and I don't know how else to say what I need to say. I still remember the summer we drove down to Cornwall and you laughed so hard at the cows. That's still you. That hasn't gone anywhere — but alcohol is in the way of me being able to reach you. Here's what I've seen: • You missed Dad's birthday. You told Mum you were on your way and never came. I stopped counting the times I've covered for you at work. What that has done to me: I've stopped inviting you round when the kids are here. I go to sleep with my phone next to me because I never know when the call will come. I'm scared. I'm scared I'm going to get the phone call that ends this — and the last version of you I remember will be the one that isn't really you. So this is my ask: There's a place with a bed for you today. I need you to say yes to going in, right now. And this is what I can and can't keep doing: If you say no today, I love you the same, but I can't keep lending you money or making excuses. I have to stop. I love you. I always will. I'm not going anywhere. But I can't keep pretending this isn't happening. [your name] (your sister)
Common questions
What is an intervention letter?▾
A short, personal letter read aloud at a family meeting (or handed to the person alone) that names your love for them, the specific harm you've seen, and a clear ask — usually accepting help today.
Should I do a full 'Johnson-style' intervention?▾
In the UK, most addiction professionals prefer the CRAFT approach — softer, evidence-based, and less likely to backfire. Reading a letter one-to-one or in a small family meeting sits inside CRAFT. Confrontational surprise interventions are the last resort, not the first.
What if they refuse help after the letter?▾
That's common on the first read. The letter still shifts the water — most people who go into rehab do so within weeks of a family conversation like this. Keep the door open, keep boundaries, follow up.
Can you help arrange the intervention?▾
Yes. UK interventionists cost around £750–£2,500 for a full family session. Talk to us below and we'll connect you with a vetted specialist who fits your situation and budget.